About This Blog

Do you ever feel out-of-place?

Standing out and not like everyone else?

Feel like you've spent your whole life as if you were on the outside looking in?

As a seven-year-old, I watched the other boys run, jump, tumble, roll, wrestle and yell. Animalistic, unrestrained and LOUD. Being shy and awkward, I just stared at them on the playground during recess. Forcing my back into the rough, brick wall of the school building with all my strength, my heart was racing and I was on the verge of tears. They were no more than 20 yards from me. I was absolutely terrified. But I so much wanted to be right in the middle of it.


The vivid feelings of vulnerability, desire and confusion I experienced in those moments on the playground that day would resurface again and again throughout my youth and young adult years. However, the vulnerability, desire and confusion that defined my same-sex attraction has not (does not) define my life and my identity.


Same-sex sexual attraction is a reality of my life. Yet as any other part of my life, I must continually surrender it to the Lordship of my Savior Jesus Christ.

Within this blog, my mission is to write and share articles that best represent my perspective regarding unwanted same-sex (sexual) attraction and homosexuality.

I have a list of specific things I want to write about but I know I don't have all the answers.

So if you experience SSA like me, I encourage you to continue to persevere, grow and learn. Embrace humility, love and grace. Not just for yourself, but share them with others as well. Remember, you are worthy of love and respect. Your life and experiences do matter.

And yet, I have asked and agonized over the same questions many of you have:

• “Why did this happen to me?”
• “How did it happen to me?”
• “Sometimes I am excited and like the feelings I have; other times I am disgusted with myself.”
• “Can I change?”
• “Will life ever get any better?”
• “Do I have to out myself before my church?”
• “Is my personal testimony or story a part of God’s will or His plan to glorify Himself in my life or in the lives of others?”

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These are the types of questions and feelings that are seared into our memories and psyches. The scars are still tender and raw. Keeping this in mind, I want this blog to be an interactive resource. An outlet for those who are familiar with this lonely path. And who want to share this journey with us.

No matter how different or unique we are, every person wants and needs understanding, love, and affirmation as a person of worth, value and respect.

Until churches, families, and individuals are willing to deal with issue of homosexuality in a redemptive way, people will continue to struggle in silence. 

My goal is to share my heart, perspective and concern for those who experience unwanted same-sex attractions. I want to share information and resources that can help you, your family, your friends and your church to move forward. To find solutions. To find common ground, understanding and love.

I want to reassure you that God is crazy about you. He does love you. He values you with a deep passion. God’s love for us is far greater than our sexuality. 

Same-sex attraction or a homosexual orientation may be part of our experience. But heterosexuality is not the goal or the measure of success. What matters is growing in obedience and Christ-likeness. Our vocation, our calling - our first and primary obligation is to God. In every aspect of our lives, we are to be faithful stewards of what He has entrusted us with. We don't need to see same-sex attractions as the core of our identity. Our identity is in Christ. 

Although I will get personal at times, this blog isn’t meant to be my personal journal. Likewise, I will NOT to present (nor engage in) convoluted sociological, theological, scientific or political arguments and theories about homosexuality or LGBT life/culture. There are times, places, contexts and forums for these types of discussions. This blog is not one of them.


Encouraging resources, helpful information and honest sharing are my goals. Biblical truth, love and grace are the frames of reference I will be coming from. Allow me to speak from my heart to yours. Let your perspective and heart speak to our fellow travelers and to me. May the Lord take our imperfections and use them for His purposes and glory.

Click here for a list of my favorite resources, links and videos.

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